Hearts Beat Loud
It is not easy to maintain a relationship with your adult relatives.
First off, there are money issues.
If you lent your relative money and now you don’t like him so much and he is ducking you, that’s a bummer and things may never get better.
Second, you can easily grow apart.
If you don’t actively find interests and activities to share with your parents and children, your relationship can slowly disintegrate.
I have a better relationship with my father than my sister does. Is it because we love each other more? I don’t know. What I do know is that we talk about CBS’s Survivor, the stock market, or baseball together every day on the phone. And my sister doesn’t have anything to talk about or watch with him.
Frank (Nick Offerman) and Sam (Kiersey Clemons) are another father and daughter who have almost nothing in common.
Frank is an irresponsible, unambitious aging hipster. He runs a failing Brooklyn indie record store. (For my younger readers: a record is twelve iTunes downloads that have been imprinted onto a large, flat plastic disc that can easily be scratched and ruined).
Sam is 18 going on 30. It is the summer before college and she has no interest in going out or having fun with friends. She is studying hard so she can have an advantage over her classmates when she begins pre-med classes at UCLA in the fall.
Frank and Sam’s conversations are completely relatable and familiar. Frank buys Sam a gift and she chides him for spending money they don’t have. Sam already feels comfortable correcting her father’s grammar but she doesn’t want to tell him a thing about her love life.
Thank goodness they share one thing: music.
One evening, Frank forces Sam to put her books down and have a jam session with him. Despite herself, Sam gets into it and the father/daughter team produce an awesomely catchy pop-song entitled Hearts Beat Loud.
Are they are going to be a band? Frank says yes, Sam says no. At least the music is giving them something to do as father and daughter during their last few weeks together.
“Hearts Beat Loud” is never surprising and never brilliant. It gets by on charm and music.
The cast is delightful, especially Ted Danson as Frank’s eccentric stoner buddy.
The music is the real star. Hearts Beat Loud is a first-rate song. It plays several times throughout the movie. And like a good pop song, it gets more enjoyable each time.
Frank is into indie rock, naturally. And director Brett Haley tosses in hip but organic conversations about Mitski and Animal Collective songs that alt-rock fans know and love.
In the end, the film works because we are rooting for Frank and Sam to find common ground together. Because we have all been there.
Maintaining a relationship with even your closest family members isn’t easy. If you are estranged from your relative because of money, there is no cure. Money is a drug that has been poisoning relationships since the beginning of civilization.
If you are a stranger to your parent or child due to a lack of things in common, that’s on you. I’ll bet you can find something. Why don’t you watch a Red Sox playoff game together this weekend?